Hey my lovelies!
Let’s not talk about how long it’s been haha…. Oops.
So I’ve finished uni now, moved back in with my parents and currently looking for a job. The last few weeks have been a rollercoaster of emotions and as you can imagine I’ve been thinking about my time at university a lot. So I thought I’d tell you some of the things I learnt at university, that my degree didn’t teach me.
- Not all friendships last forever.
People change, a lot. Or maybe it’s just you never noticed it, sometimes it’s a case of drifting apart and other times it can be that you no longer like the person they are. Just because you might’ve been friends with someone for years, it doesn’t matter. If they don’t make you happy or make you feel bad about yourself, then they’re not a friend worth having.
2. Time isn’t a measure of friendships or relationships.
I’ve had friendships last for 10 years, friendships that have lasted 6 months, a relationship that lasted 3 months. And yet the people I spent the least amount of time with have meant more to me than those I have spent years with. You could be married to someone for 25 years, it doesn’t mean they necessarily still make you happy. It could just be easier to stay with them than leave.
I had a very close friend for most of my final year who supported me so much and was there for me when my anxiety was at its worst. To be honest I’m not sure I’d have passed final year without them. We’re not friends anymore, but that 6 months meant a lot to me.
3. Love is very very hard to find.
Hold it tightly and fight to keep it.
4. Don’t worry about money, money will come and go. And even more important, don’t worry about what others think when it comes to money.
If you’ve earnt it, you should be able to spend it on whatever you like. It’s your responsibility, no one else’s and they have no right to dictate how you spend it.
5. There are always going to be people who think they are better than you.
I think it’s just a defence mechanism, to be honest.
6. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay.
I mean lord knows my housemate from placement year hates my guts, haha. Do I care? Not really.
7. Always try to make people laugh.
Life is hard, really hard at times and laughter really is the best medicine.
8. Do not seek comfort from strangers when you feel sad.
It’ll only make you feel worse when they leave and over time it just creates a cycle.
9. Start traditions with friends.
As you get older and people move away, it’s harder to meet up as often so create a tradition and stick to it. Ours is meeting up on the second May Bank Holiday weekend, next year the plan is to go to Amsterdam together.
10. Life is incredibly unpredictable and it’s unlikely that it will turn out how you imagined.
Hell, at the end of placement I thought I’d be living down south after uni, in my final year I thought I’d been living in Nottingham and now it’s looking more likely that I could be getting a job on the other side of Leeds and buying a house there. But if uni life, and life in general has taught me anything, it could all be very different in 6 months time!
Lots of Love